‘Loving’ With Food

In previous posts I have brought up the subject of emotional eating.  It is a subject most people with food issues have to deal with in some form or another when attempting to get their health on track.  Now I would like to bring up emotional feeding or ‘loving’ people with food.

In a way ‘loving’ with food is more deeply woven into the fabric of our culture than over eating.  Repeatedly media images show us that families are at their very best when gathered around a table groaning from the weight of lovingly prepared foods.  The iconic television mothers of the 50’s and 60’s were up before dawn to put an abundant hot breakfast on the table and then they welcomed their children home from school with plates of warm cookies and frosty glasses of milk.  Television cooks make foods to feed our souls, nearly always beginning with a stick or two of butter and fried crispy before serving.  All of these role models are trying to teach us how to love our family and friends.

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Emotions surrounding food can be very complicated and overwhelming. Photo: Creative Commons

I love thinking of the kitchen as the heart of a home and I absolutely feel we should gather with family and friends to share food.  I hope home cooks and professional chefs continue to cook with love for their families and friends.  My dream is for the food they make to be prepared so that they can continue to love their family and friends for many many years to come.

In my mind feeding our loved ones with food that is both delicious and nutritious is a way to show that we love and respect them.  I cook foods that will energize and fuel my loved ones so they can go out and be successful.  If I continue to put food on the table that is high in fat and calories our bodies will spend more energy dealing with the extra junk leaving us tired and feeling gross.  Foods like that do not show respect.  I don’t want to feed my family meals known to increase the risk of heart disease, diabetes, skin problems, ulcers, depression, early death, or any of the other complications of an unhealthy diet.

By sharing meals that are bright, fresh, and flavorful our family will be full of life and energy for many years to come.  It is true that we can never know what tomorrow will bring but life is not so short that it is worth stacking the deck against ourselves.  I hope when you check in at Our Lady of Second Helpings you are inspired by simple and fun ways to bring new vibrant recipes to those you love.  I think dusting off past family recipes once or twice a year is a good thing, having them less often makes them even more special and memorable.  Perhaps the rest of the year can be spent creating and sharing new more healthful family favorites.

I am committed to feeding people in a way that shows love and respect for their body and their soul and I hope that you, Dear Readers, will join me.

Find ideas for flavorful light and healthy foods in the Recipes section above.


  1. Feeding my family is definitely one way I love them. Other ways are getting up at 5:30 a.m. to go to work, laundering their dirty socks, and “encouraging” them to do what needs to be done (they might call it “nagging”). “Love” is not a feeling, it is a doing. Rose, you are so right when you say that feeding them “delicious and nutritious” food shows love and respect.

  2. Lovingly put – putting good food in the stomachs of those we love to shows how deep a cook can care, even unto a molecular level!

    It’s a fun challenge to present healthy food that tastes great — especially if I can persuade people to eat something they normally wouldn’t. Brussels sprouts were fun: the win was to marinate them in a sesame ginger vinaigrette, then stir-fry with other veggies and tofu or meat.

  3. Oh my gosh. I just posted about my daughter and in the story I connected happiness with cookies. I didn’t even realize that until the next thing I saw was your post. I gotta be careful with that.

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